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So you’re pregnant, its the most exciting time of your life and you can’t wait to tell your family, your friends, even your husband… It doesn’t matter whether you’ve just found out or you’ve waited for a month or two to make certain, you still want to make an impact. You’re delirious and you want everyone else to be too. Pregnancy is really momentous and can sometimes be fun. So start off as you mean to go on. Make pregnancy fun.

Telling the Father: Have a candle lit dinner for two.Enjoy your quiet private time. It will be one of the last times before pregnancy chages your life. Give him baby carrots, baby back ribs, baby cauliflower ,even a can of baby food. At the end, a glass of milk instead of wine and hand him a present. Inside you can have a tiny baby bib that says, “I heart My Daddy” or a pair of baby booties or a book on raising your baby and what’s going to happen in your pregnancy.

If you can’t tell the father right away because he’s away on business for a while, or in the forces try sending him a care package. Inside the box place a few baby items, everything in blue and pink and a baby naming book in the center. Place a note on top of the book with, “I need a name soon, I’ll be here by June.” Or whenever the baby is due.Put in a list of baby names that you think are his favourite. Personally I’d recommend trying to wait until the father returns but if you can’t make the pregnancy announcement fun.

You can also see how long it takes him to work it out. Go to the dollar store and pick up a lot of small baby items, a bib, rattle, bottle, booties, etc. For a week, leave an item laying around the house where he is bound to find them. At the end of the week if he hasn’t figured it out yet, and you’re going mad at his stupidity, prepare the big gift. Have a large teddy bear sitting at the dinner table in the seat beside him, make sure there is a bib wrapped around him and maybe a sign that says:’ Hi Daddy.’

Invite family and friends up to a party wearing a shirt that announces your pregnancy. There are a lot of shirts out there with clever sayings, “Baby on Board,” “A Bun in the Oven,” ,” I’m 25 and pregnant,” or something else related to the pregnancy. The moment you walk in or take off your jacket everyone will figure it out without you ever having to say a word. Now, get ready for the tears and excitement. You’ll be answering a lot of questions. Oh but make sure you’ve told the father first.

If you already have children you may want to call the grandparents up and tell them that the next Christmas they may want to add one more to the list. But be prepared for a long conversation. Pregnancy is exciting for them as well.

If this is the first grandchild, you may want to get a bracelet link for your mom that reads, “#1 Grandma” or grandparent t-shirts. This will not only be a great present for them but something they will cherish and love forever.

No matter when you spread the news it can be a lot of fun, just think creatively and let the pieces fall. You may even want to try catching all of it on video, so think ahead and prepare for the BIG moment, and I don’t mean the birth. These will be some of the biggest moments of your life- cherish them.

I have spent hours and hours pouring through the best get your ex back tips, advice and strategies and when it comes to good advice it’s important to understand that what may work for one person many times isn’t the best advice for someone else.

And there is a lot of great advice out there, but also a lot of just plain awful advice too.

So how can you determine if you are following the right strategy or tactics for your situation or if you are just making things worse instead?

Here are 3 tips that will help you to know whether or not the approach you are considering will be the best for you or if it will only end up making things worse instead.

1. Is it gender specific advice? Men and women are different – think Venus and Mars of course. So when reading advice not tailored specifically for your sex you have to evaluate whether it’s just good, practical advice that applies to both sexes or whether it’s something that might be more fitting for a man or a woman. The best advice is written with the psychology of how men and women act and react in a relationship, knowing what men and women really want and understanding that it’s different, not the same. There are some universal wants that specifically apply to everyone in a relationship including having certain needs met. But those needs are different for men and women and the best advice takes this into consideration.

3. Do you prefer more abstract and esoteric ideas and thoughts or are you more comfortable with logical step by step advice. When you are wanting to win back your ex it’s important to have a plan and stick to it. But that plan can be based on logic and step by step practical application or tend more towards esoteric and positive thinking principles such as law of attraction. In this case it’s a good idea to look at how you approach other areas of your life. Do you feel better when you have a lot of guidance and clear implicit direction and instruction. Or are you more likely to take big leaps into the unknown and trust in approaches that work on faith and application of the belief that you create your own reality?

3. Do you want advice that strongly focuses only on just getting your ex back, or do you want advice that might help you get your ex back, but is also tailored to helping you find happiness whatever the outcome of your situation? Many times when we want to get back together with an ex we are so caught up in the emotional pain we are feeling that we think the only way we will be happy is if we get that person back into our life. But sometimes we aren’t always thinking clearly enough and facing our worst fears. So perhaps the best advice will not only help you to get your ex back if that’s the right outcome for you, but will also help you to move on and face your fears, help you to heal emotionally, and grow stronger and become a person who will be in a better position to attract the right relationship for you, one that will ultimately make you happy.

You deserve to have the relationship you always dreamed about and if you feel in your heart that your ex is the one that you are supposed to have that relationship with then it’s time to get some momentum going and decide upon the right approach to take to get your ex back.

I hope these 3 tips will help you look at all the advice, tips and strategies you read about or are considering trying with a much more informed mindset. Having the right plan for you will help you feel much more comfortable in your approach to getting your ex back.

And being confident that you are following the best advice for you will make you feel much stronger and more sure of yourself. And it goes without saying that this will certainly increase your confidence and attraction and put lots of positive momentum in your favor.

Is there a “magic” method to get my ex back, you ask? It may be hard to believe, but yes, there are words and techniques that will cast a spell and make your ex want to call you back. That’s great, isn’t it? I am going to show you how to do this because it is one of the most frequently asked question from my suscribers that want to know: how to get my ex back.

Ok, so the question is “how do I get my ex back, to return my phone call or text message?” This can be done, but be careful, this is just the begining of a plan, and not a complete strategy. This will get your ex to return a call, but not get her/him back to you (just yet). If you do this without a plan, you can damage your relationship instead of helping it. This is about building a great relationship with your ex once you get back.

First, be aware of what you must never say. A lot of people fall for the usual mistakes, taking them into a very difficult position with theirs ex instead of helping get them back. These are the most common:

The PLEAD. Where the message sounds like “John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.” Of course, this call is not going to be returned. And if it is, you will be in a disadvantage position. You don’t want your ex to call you back because he pities you!

The Emergency call: “Hi, I have an emergency and I need you. Please call me”. Your ex will know this is just a lie to get her/him to call you back, and maybe you will get the call, but this dirty trick will only work once, and to your disadvantage at that. Liying doesn’t help, believe me.

These common approaches simply don’t work, or work opossed to what you want. If you really want your ex attention, there are methods much more effective. Let’s review a simple one.

Use curiosity and self interest. The most powerful forces in the human mind are our curiosity and our self interest. This is the big secret: combine the two and you have an instant “magic” technique. This will work every time!

Call your ex and say something like “Hello, it’s me. I just wanted to tell you that I really appreciate what you did for me. When you get the chance, give me a call so I can tell you personaly.” Can you see how this uses curiosity and self interest in one sweep? Your ex can’t resist calling you back! “What is it that I did?”, “Appreciates what?”, your ex will think. Also, it’s a positive message, so he/she will get in the phone for sure.

Now, prepare mentally for what you are going to say. What did your ex did right for you? Maybe it was some advice or a positive criticism that helped you. Maybe it was when you needed to talk with someone and she/he was there for you. Work on this so you can tell your ex about it. Just remember that you will get a call back and maybe a date, but this is just the beginning of getting your ex back. You need a plan.

With this simple method, you will have your ex calling you, but is only a part of a larger strategy. If you really want to get your ex back, you have to have a plan. You now can have a call and maybe a date. Now you have to work to get your ex back.

Infidelity. What a scary word. When one thinks of a cheating spouse, one usually thinks of a movie or someone else – rarely do we consider infidelity occurring in our own home. Until the day you suspect you are living with a cheater.

To start, the slow realization of a cheating spouse is a tiny alarm going off on your internal radar. Your spouses comings and goings start to raise your suspicions. Perhaps he/she has many phone calls at strange hours. Maybe your spouse just seems “absent” from your relationship – but happy. Bottom line is, most betrayed spouses can pinpoint the moment when adultery became reality in their life.

While not all affairs are the same, the majority of cheating spouses have some dirty little secrets in common. These same secrets are the tool to your sanity as you can learn these, look for them in your spouse, and then empower yourself to take the action you choose to take.

Cheating spouses actually don’t like to lie to you – that is, they struggle with the dishonesty in the beginning. Over time, the guilt subsides, and lying to you becomes a necessary evil and a matter of survival. If your spouse is suddenly acting guilty around you, realize you may have caught him/her at the start of an affair.

Unfaithful spouses are the some of the most stressed-out human beings you may ever come into contact with. The stress of lying, keeping up two dishonest lives, keeping all the lies in order, and trying to keep two partners content can be extremely over-whelming. While a new affair is not as stressful as one that has been on-going, most unfaithful spouses sub-consciously wish they would get caught so it will all just stop.

Cheaters need modern technology to keep their affair alive and well. Email and cell phones make infidelity much easier to maintain – they also make infidelity much easier to begin in the first place. If you suspect adultery in your relationship, start by going through all email and cell phone accounts. Any questionable email addresses or cell phone numbers should be traced right away.

Keep in mind that not all cheaters are bad people. Affairs actually can happen to decent people. Yes, an affair can even happen to a spouse that is worth keeping. The fear of being considered a “failure” due to a lapse in judgment keeps most unfaithful spouses involved in an affair.

If an affair is confirmed in your relationship, remember one thing. The next steps, actions and efforts are about you, the betrayed spouse. Do not waste your energy dwelling on the other woman (or man), do not waste your energy on the guilty spouse. You have just had a traumatic experience happen that will center around trust. The misconception is that healing from an affair involves learning to trust your spouse again. While this is on the list of future things to deal with, it is not your immediate concern. Your first concern will be to learn to trust YOURSELF again.

Unfaithful spouses rely on the self-doubt betrayed spouses bring into their minds. The desire to trust your spouse is far more powerful than your desire to find out your spouse is not trust-worthy. When cheating is confirmed, the first victim to be healed is the betrayed spouse – You. Take every bit of time you need for yourself and try to heal yourself before you begin any other major changes in your life. A worthy spouse will wait.

The old adage of something or another being one’s “Bread and Butter” has been around for a long time. Perhaps this is simply another soon to become ancient jewel, its prolific meaning to be covered in cobwebs, lost to the English language forever. However, in relationship therapy, the mainstay of dynamics of relationship, sex, intimacy and money, remain forever constant, and this old cliche’ more apropos nowadays than ever!

I liken the dynamics and personal interactions among lovers and couples as that of the numerous possibilities and options of one’s personal preferences. Much the same as something as simple as the choices one makes with “the mixing of “butter and jam.” The cliche’ remains the same, its simply the nuances of interaction that do not stay constant.

Yesterday morning at breakfast, I was standing in my kitchen buttering a piece of toast, I placed my knife into the butter, and then ever so carefully into the jar of jam, being certain not to leave any butter in the jam jar. I laughed at myself afterwards… thinking, who cares….its my jam jar and I can do what I want with it! Does it really matter if there are bread crumbs abound in my fifteen-dollar jar of French jam? Did someone ask me or reprimand me?

Such simple dynamics are an analogy for similar “rules of engagement” in relationships. Whether one is arguing over, money, sex, love, lust, libido, the list goes on and on….the issue at hand always boils down to the right to personal choice and not wanting to be coerced by another’s will, even if it is our significant other.

So then, we are speaking here, of talking about a person’s right to choice, to not be owned, nor second to another, to have the right to speak your truth in relationship without being edited or condemned by your partner. This doesn’t mean that one or the other of you is absolutely correct, and that it should ultimately come to one of you being right and the other being wrong.

So the concept arises of a couple building a healthy relationship based on trust and respect. If Dick wants to dip his butter knife in the Jam, then Jane has a right to an opinion. However, if Jane is opposed to the idea, it is that stance of saying NO..to your partner…where one is put in the place of being in “the wrong.” Aha!!!!! So why then must it come to blows…indignant emotions, feelings being hurt? Why must the other be wrong, and must you feel kick them if they are, or communicate and find a solution to the conflict or difference?

It is this delicate process of compromise and acceptance of the other’s belief system and perspective of the world, that most often leads to the throes of imbalance and unhappiness in relationship if ignored or swept under the table. For two to exist and more important love in harmony frankly is a work-in-progress, that, if includes a commitment to that work, can result in a happy union.

In summary, there are some basics in relationship that can be changed, other behaviors are those that you’ll have to decide whether or not you can live with. Choose your battles carefully, for as the old adage goes….”You may win the battle, but you will lose the war.”

When it comes to Mothers Day presents, it’s never a good idea to put it off till the holiday is almost here. Of course, if you have already procrastinated too long and still don’t know what to buy, you know that beautiful blossoms are sure to be appreciated.

Flowers on Mother’s Day are not just a tradition, they are an institution. There’s just one simple rule: don’t buy Mom the same flowers you mught choose for your girlfriend. If you’re choosing individual flowers to build your own bouquet just pretend you’re a kid again and let your imagination run wild with color. Your Mom will love it. Sentiment is more important than perfection.

Don’t let your fear of choosing a bouquet stop you from sending one to your Mom. Even if you are far away, a florist in your town will be happy to help you find just the right one for Mom and have it delivered on time.

No matter what, a note should be included with the flowers. Something as simple as “I love you” or “thinking of you” always makes it more meaningful. An inside joke is a good possibility, depending on your relationship with your mother. A handwritten quote or stanza from her favorite poem will never go unappreciated.

Gift’s for Mother’s Day can consist of more than just flowers. Candy and stuffed animals are the most popular of the many items that flower delivery businesses have to offer. Whatever you decide to get your mother, always remember to call her on Mother’s Day. If you forget you will have something to write on the card next year: I didn’t forget this year, Mom!

You’ll need to order your gift soon, if that’s how you plan on getting it. There are only a few days left until mother’s day, so time is running low. The longer you put it off, the more expensive it will be to get the item shipped so that she gets it on time. Prices are higher on things like flowers on or around Mother’s Day, so prices will be higher.