Managing Your Time when Meeting Women – Part 1
dating can be your best friend.
…OR your worst adversary.
Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.
Then there’s that common phrase, “He thinks with his… You know.”
Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We need to achieve things and influence the world in a good way. And we are doers of it.
I’ve personally faced one of the biggest challenges and it is balancing the two – my carnal obsession and achieving my goals.
When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.
Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling…now there’s nothing wrong with spending quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, and so do women.
In fact, it’s a woman’s NATURE to get the man’s time – it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. If she gets pregnant there’s a lesser chance of you leaving her (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
There is also a urges in men that completely take over your thoughts.
Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.
Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”
Now I bet it is not about “money,” or “control over my life,” or “lots of my free time.”
It was probably something like “good feelings, sexual pleasure, relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”
I think men have problems with how they use their time with women in two ways.
First, they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable, making them overcompensate with other stuff – like spending too much money or time to a girl.
Second, they think that when a woman spends her time with them, they are “getting” something valuable.
Guys was brainwash by the society to believe that women are a prize to attain, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.
That’s so untrue!
The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!
Now it is really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.
It is hard to notice the mental habits because these are subtle and you’ve been doing them for years.