After a while in relationships, familiarity grows and so does the tendency to take each other for granted. As this happens, true love tends to diminish. After a while, we may just feel like roommates. Is there a way to keep the true love strong?

The answer is both no and yes. No, because we will become overly familiar with our lover. We will tend to take each other for granted some. It’s going to happen in any long term relationship.

But there are things you can do to keep the true love alive. Start with this insight: a little true love goes a long way. You don’t have to feel like swooning and weak kneed every time you see your mate. You’ve got a life to life apart from the relationship, so go live it without needing to think sweet thoughts of your lover all the time you are apart. Just a few minutes of the feeling of true love a day will go a long way.

You can easily experience some deep intimacy with your mate on a daily basis, no matter how long you have been together. To begin with, try this simple practice: think of 3 things you appreciate about your mate. Find three things a day (they can be the same three things) to appreciate and be thankful for about your relationship and this will keep the door open to true love.

Another way to keep true love alive is to express it. Don’t keep it bottled up. Don’t wait for them to express their love. You don’t need a reason, just give them some loving every day. Small simple things will do. A five minute head massage, snuggling on the couch, or giving them a good long kiss instead of the usual peck on the lips.

These two simple practices can keep true love going strong in your relationship over the years if you make them into a habit and practice them daily. Feel some appreciation for your mate every day. Then express that appreciation physically. Show your love freely, without waiting for them to be loving first. Your relationship will feel much more intimate.

The trick here is to turn these two things into habits. A habit is usually formed when you do something most every day for 30 days. Then it becomes automatic. Make these two things automatic and you will both be happier for it.