It’s official, you and your ex have finally broken up. So what do you do now? This article will deal with the first steps to take immediately after a breakup.

1.) Panic and stress is the enemy that you must deal with first. It will be extremely difficult to think straight and take control if you are stressed out. Avoid discussing among your friends your problems with your ex.

This does nothing but reinforce your bad feelings. It will also generate discomfort and embarrassment among your friends. Unless they are very knowledgeable in relationship issues, their suggestions won’t be that useful.

2.) Remember that things rarely fix themselves. You will have to make it happen. You can only do this with a cool head.

Your first instinct after the breakup will be to patch things up as fast as possible. There is no quick fix to relationship problems. As a matter of fact, you should let things cool off for about a month.

If the breakup happened in a non threatening way, reconciliation with her will be much easier. In order to a get some perspective, you’ll need to allow some time for reflection. Before you try contacting her, you must have an understanding of the reasons for the breakup.

3.) Try being friends with her. It won’t be an easy thing to do after the breakup but it will keep the channels open for future contact. The nature of your most recent contact always defines the current status of your relationship. That last contact is the basis for her current thoughts about you.

Do the fun things with her that you did back in the beginning, before you had sex. This will serve to remind her of the good side of your relationship. She will understand that she’ll be giving this fun aspect up if she leaves you.

4.) Be very careful when drinking alcohol. It will distort your common sense and judgement. The consumption of alcohol late at night often causes a person to give their ex a phone call.

No one is happy about getting a phone call late at night. This is particularly true if it’s their ex on the phone. Because the alcohol will loosen up your inhibitions, things will be said that will make matters worse.

5.) Get away from the house and enjoy yourself. Easier said than done, I know, but it’s a great form of therapy. It’s time to dust off old friendships and to make some new ones too. There’s no better remedy for driving away the blues of separation than enjoying life again.